Q & A: Holidays in Hospitals?

Q. “My 11 year old daughter has spent almost every holiday in the hospital this year and she misses out on school classroom parties. Is there anything I can do to make this easier for her?”

A. You sound like such a kind-hearted person. Thank you for your question. Your daughter is at the cusp of adolescence where connection with peers is of utmost importance. I recommend simply asking your daughter what she is missing not being part of the school parties. For her, is it the treats? The games? The decorations? The connection with peers? Is it the normalcy of being in a classroom for a special event? If she is able to articulate the loss to you, it could be an opportunity for you both to collaborate to create something special in the hospital on those days she is missing out. Perhaps she can decorate her hospital room, wear a special headband or outfit, or make crafts for her favorite staff. Include her in the solution so that she has a feeling of autonomy and agency (agency means contributing to the solution and having choice). Please send me an update!